Building that pleasure “muscle” by embracing little delights leads to stronger passions. It helps you say “yes” to trying something new. It emphasizes that learning is often pleasurable. You might find yourself enjoying the challenge of creative problem solving or squealing with delight in discovery of a new path forward. You might feel a lightness in your step and express more playfulness with those around you.

Whether you’re seeking to deepen your current partnership in preparation for an upcoming transition (moving, new job, new baby, retirement, etc), looking to trust in your ability to find love, or trying to elevate your relationship with family, Intimacy Advising will open you up to a world of possibility and life changing perspectives.

When you see your imperfections as “bad”, it’s much easier to deny, suppress, or ignore the truth of them. In relating to others, it’s often much easier to get defensive, draw a line in the sand, or make the other person wrong, than it is to take responsibility for your part in a conflict. It takes a ton more courage to see, accept, and soften into the truth of your imperfections and take responsibility in a way that helps both of you. It helps you grow for the better, and it helps the other person take responsibility for their part.

That’s where the practice of intimacy is.

Art is an expression of emotion - shared with others to evoke a response. Sometimes it’s for pure enjoyment, sometimes it’s to make a statement, sometimes it’s pure observation of beauty, sometimes it’s to tell a story. (I’m sure there are many other reasons for art, but let’s just start with those)

Sex can be a physical expression of emotion - love, devotion passion and creativity. 

How many voices do you hear in your head? I don’t mean in the Summer of Sam kind of way! ;-P But, in the - “how many people do you listen to before you make a decision” kind of way? There’s usually a community of people you use to guide your path of right and wrong decisions. Maybe they are your parents, friends, grandparents, teachers, spouse? Some are the voice of encouragement - the voice telling you ‘yes, you can do that’. Some are the voice of discouragement - the voice that says ‘no, don’t do/share that’. 

Are these voices actually running how you live? In short, YES.